FOMO: Confessions of a people pleaser

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Photo: Isobell Tregoweth

These are my reflections since our last Grace Collective Event: FOMO. The fear of missing out is something which plagues our generation. We over commit in capacity and under commit in quality, or we do nothing because we cannot decide what to do! At our event we had three guest speakers who challenged us on how this attitude aligns (or doesn’t) with the kind of life that Jesus calls us to. I personally was inspired by the stories from those who have given up pursuing multiple dreams and chosen to commit to something through all kinds of seasons, who don’t just duck out when things get tough or boring. This is so counter-cultural in our society! So counter-cultural to my life so far! So here is my rant: Continue reading

Shifting my goals

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The horror of the “same old thing” is one of the most restricting passions of the human heart.

We wear the word mundane, with shame.

We dread that something be the same as it was before, for to be unchanged, is to be failing.

Without realising, my demand for change diminishes my pleasure and increases my desire, whilst simultaneously emptying my pockets, and my sense of satisfaction.

When I finished high school 3 years ago, I went on an adventure. And I did some incredible things, things I don’t regret doing, and things I will truly treasure for the rest of my life. However, I am beginning to realise that although taking on new challenges and striving for cool, great things is not necessarily bad, for me, pursuing adventures for myself has at times blinded me to the reality of the consistent beauties that already exist in my life.

I have been living a “mundane” “normal” life again for over a year since my trip.

“Back to study” “Back to work” “Back to living at home” “Back to the same old thing.”

And secretly, and sometimes not so secretly, I seem to circle back to a longing to be elsewhere, back there, somewhere different, somewhere exciting.  Continue reading

The Grace Collective presents: GOALS

Are you a new year resolution list-maker? Have you got dreams of making that Big Change this year? Or are you just hoping to scrape through 2016 with some degree of success?

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At the beginning of a new year it is a great time to make goals for the days ahead. Get straight As. Buy a car. Travel more. Pray more. Land your dream job.

However research shows that – no matter how well intentioned we are – by July most of us will have bailed on our goals. So where are we going wrong? Why is it so hard to turn our dreams into reality? Is it possible that we have been going about it the wrong way?  What if Jesus has some even better goals in mind for us?

Join us for the GC guide to goals – our amazing line up of speakers will share their stories and wisdom on making goals that are worth keeping.

Wednesday 9 March, 7.30pm at Crave, McDonald St, Kingsland

See you there!

2016 Changes – In The Know!

Some things are changing around here in 2016 and we want to let you know all about them!

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Cafe events are moving to Wednesday nights. Our wonderful friends at Crave Cafe are opening on Saturday nights now, so we get to move to Wednesdays! The events will be the same, just a little later (7:30pm – 9:30pm). We are super excited for this, it means that you can bring your small/home group along as a social event and the party animals among us still have their Saturday nights!

We need more musicians! If you play an instrument and/or sing, we want to here from you! We love showcasing new talent, and we love being blessed by those in our community. Sets are for the first half hour of the event, super chill and a great place to cut your teeth as a performer. Get in touch with Eleanor (admin@aym.org.nz) if you would like to know more!

We are always looking for more people to help us out with our cafe events (hosting, baking, photography, sound/AV, set up). We are a COLLECTIVE – all of us make up the community so we would love to have anyone who wants to be involved, involved! If you have a passion/gift/calling we are sure there is a place for you here. Email the address above for more info!

Going Further 2016

10999507_10205023825688086_6181972284642536584_nGoing Further is back for 2016 and here at the Grace Collective we couldn’t be more excited! We are  partnering with Presbytarian Youth Ministry to be part of Going Further in February 2016. It’s an incredible week in community to consider God’s loving of us and living the Jesus way as we head into the year with our life, career, studies and church. Continue reading

I’m A Kiwi Too!

11080898_10203108374344771_4240644590051391261_nWhere am I from? It’s not a straightforward answer. I’m Sri Lankan, born in Bahrain, and have lived in New Zealand since I was two – I’m quite a mix of different cultures. This gets interesting when I meet new people here. I often get called Indian or Fijian Indian. When I explain to people that I was born in Bahrain, I receive confused looks – it’s in the Middle East folks. My cultural heritage and ethnicity is important to me, but I’m also very much Kiwi. Is it therefore fair that I’m often treated as different just because I look different? Continue reading

Refugees Are Welcome (#squadgoals)

squad postcard (2)We had something very cool underway for our upcoming event ‘SQUAD’ involving #squadgoals, deeper friendships, cliques and being welcoming – particularly being welcoming of ‘outsiders’ the revolutionary way that Jesus was.

Then the refugee crisis blew up in the media and that made us realise – there’s an even bigger conversation we could be having right now, and something very real that we could be doing about it. Continue reading